Tips on how to deal with your faults, failings and negative behaviors. How to handle the things you really don’t like about yourself.
Developing relentless curiosity
Sometimes a hard look in the mirror reveals something really unflattering.
You thought you were beyond being insecure or acting on some low rent motivation or being petty, greedy or judgmental.
But suddenly you’ve been shown up, unmasked and revealed. What happens next is quite important in determining whether you handle your defects like a pro or resort to dimming the lights and sweeping it all back into some dark corner.
Tips of the trade
I counsel people. I work one on one with people through this website, but I also have another life as a business consultant, where I use the same skills—and interestingly, deal with many of the same issues, only framed differently. Because people are people, after all. Many of the same patterns that hold people back from personal or spiritual growth are the same ones that trip them up in other areas of life.
Here are some insights that will help you improve your ability to guide and counsel yourself like a pro.
When you behave in ways that a) you believe are beneath you or b) result in cringe-worthy situations or outcomes…take a minute to rejoice at your good fortune.
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