I don’t do spiritual practices in order to have specific experiences. I find that the process has its own momentum and I don’t need to organize it as such.
I’ve also learned that there is nothing special about the experiences, no matter how amazing they seem at the time.
One tends to chase after experiences such as bliss and oneness with what we will, for convenience, call God. But these experiences come and go, they are not the prize, and are often just a big distraction. They can even be a trap, because one gets overly fascinated and focused on having these experiences, when really they are just things that happen along the way…you are supposed to keep moving forward and expanding.
It’s like walking into a room with one dollar bills strewn all over the floor. You can get distracted and spend lots of time gathering them. What you are not aware of is that this is in fact your very own palace and that your throne and the real jewels are further along, through many other rooms. You can spend a lifetime picking up dollar bills, or even finally go to the next room, which is littered with something else that seems valuable but is actually unimportant. I’m sure you get the picture.
If you need to have more of these experiences, or any other experiences, you will. The most you will need to do is make room for it. Just be aware that it’s too easy to become fascinated with the experiences. It’s one thing to acknowledge that they are mind blowing or beautiful or life altering. They are. But grasping at them or trying to acquire more of them or worse, confusing the experiences for enlightenment, is going to divert you from the real treasure.
Normal is not the same as sane. What makes you different from the crazy homeless lady, dressed in rags, talking nonsense day after day? She’s having an animated dialogue with herself, and if you actually stop to listen to what she is saying, it’s usually rather unpleasant. We are all grateful not to be so afflicted, but how different are you, really? From my perspective, not much. READ >>
Reader Q&A. If you’ve got a ticket to Nirvana, why should you stick around ’till the curtain closes? A reader observes that people are unreal, that suffering is inherent in life, and all he wants to do is get to that state we call Nirvana. How do we approach this duality of Real/Unreal and Existence/Nirvana? Let’s look. READ >>
It’s totally normal for you to try to accredit the awakened status of various people who claim to be awakened. From my perspective, this is just a quirky thing that Sleepwalkers do. It’s like a Tinder thing….yes, no, left, right, swipe, swipe, swipe. And in the end, what? Will you collect a database of authentic awakened people? To what end? READ >>
Full awakening is life altering. Seeing through the illusion of self is life altering. If you are looking for more practices, books, retreats and methods I can only surmise that you have not in fact seen through the illusion of self. I’m not negating your experience. It may have felt very profound. I am only suggesting that you have seen through the illusion of self either momentarily, then returning to separate self consciousness or you have had this experience in some kind of partial or intellectual way. READ >>
Lifting the veil and coming back empty handed. There used to be an infamous pizza joint in Phnom Penh called Happy Pizza. Who knows how the Gemini Husband knew of it, but he and my then thirteen year old daughter walked there one evening to pick up a pizza. Among the… READ >>
Enlightenment does not happen to improve life. To an unenlightened person who is inclined toward happiness, life can be glorious. To people who tend toward negative emotions or feelings of low esteem or loneliness or persistent feelings of lack, for those people enlightenment might “improve” their negative state. Enlightenment is not required to live a happy life, filled with awe. READ >>