Enlightenment, Desire, Sex & Time

Reflection of woman in water.

Ever wonder what post enlightenment sex is like? 

Concepts like Brahmacharya now make perfect sense, but not as a struggle against sex or desire.

Sudden enlightenment has taught me a lot about how the desire-mind governs our sexual desire through the perception of time.  If I could draw, I would present you two images: your brain, and your brain on enlightenment.

The first thing I noticed was that all discursive thought disappeared. 

When this happened, so did time.  What I mean by this is that all time that was not NOW became unreal.  Not theoretically or philosophically unreal, but truly and viscerally lacking reality.  This simple, yet fundamental shift in perception altered my ability to desire anything.

Since I no longer referred to the past, I did not conjure up any memories of sexual desire.  I also did not project myself into the future, and therefore could no longer anticipate sexual pleasure. If you don’t refer to the past and you don’t anticipate the future, you effectively no longer fantasize. Without the thought (fantasy) of sexual pleasure, the desire does not arise.

There is a link between sexual desire and the tendency to refer to or project our provisional ego selves into past and future time.  Can one have and enjoy sex without desire that refers to past or future?

READ MORE: ENLIGHTENMENT

People at a concert.

Me, and My Imaginary Friends

For the first couple of years, all the people in my life, the ones close to me and the ones I met casually at the…

Reflection of tree in water.

It’s Just a Phase

How not to end up in a spiritual niche or dead end after spiritual awakening. Whatever your perspective of the moment, it’s just a phase,…

Lit candles.

What to do When People Start to Worship You

You’re newly awakened and the people around you can really feel it. They have “spiritual experiences” in your presence. They perceive the light of Source…

Abstract lights.

Enlightened Ultra Sight Or Blindness?

If ever I imagined the awakened state, it surely never included such funky bodily experiences. Or if there were funky experiences, they would have more…

Mandala lights.

Fear In Transition

Blast! Awakening is amazing and powerful and all that. And maybe for some people everything falls into place perfectly when they awaken. Everything is okay…

Water lilies blooming with skyscrapers in the background.

Checking in or checking out?

How to jump back in the petri dish of humankind. Like many people who wake up, I went through many phases of working within this…

Neon words that read: you are here.

Post Awakening: What am I Doing Here?

The persona, or what is popularly called the Ego, is limiting, to be sure. But damned if it doesn’t have its uses! After spiritual enlightenment,…

Relationships After Enlightenment

I was alone in the woods on a summer night, when suddenly, I woke up. Instantly, spectacularly, and completely out of the blue. On the…

Pink clouds.

Bittersweet: Living at the Intersection of Joy and Pain

Those who have described living in the spiritually awakened state as suffused with indescribable love, beauty and joy only told you half the story.