Enlightenment, Desire, Sex & Time

Reflection of woman in water.

Ever wonder what post enlightenment sex is like? 

Concepts like Brahmacharya now make perfect sense, but not as a struggle against sex or desire.

Sudden enlightenment has taught me a lot about how the desire-mind governs our sexual desire through the perception of time.  If I could draw, I would present you two images: your brain, and your brain on enlightenment.

The first thing I noticed was that all discursive thought disappeared. 

When this happened, so did time.  What I mean by this is that all time that was not NOW became unreal.  Not theoretically or philosophically unreal, but truly and viscerally lacking reality.  This simple, yet fundamental shift in perception altered my ability to desire anything.

Since I no longer referred to the past, I did not conjure up any memories of sexual desire.  I also did not project myself into the future, and therefore could no longer anticipate sexual pleasure. If you don’t refer to the past and you don’t anticipate the future, you effectively no longer fantasize. Without the thought (fantasy) of sexual pleasure, the desire does not arise.

There is a link between sexual desire and the tendency to refer to or project our provisional ego selves into past and future time.  Can one have and enjoy sex without desire that refers to past or future?

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