How to master the mind: develop mental and emotional clarity by getting — and staying — centered.
Put on some headphones and explore one of the fundamentals of cultivating sanity.
Are you on or off your throne? Your consciousness has a location and it matters where it is.
Where are you? In any given moment, in any given interaction?
You can think of it as your HQ, if you like. I think of it as my seat, or my throne. The imagery of being seated is significant. I’m rooted, not moving, no matter what is happening around me. My throne indicates that this is my domain and I am sovereign in it.
If you’ve read through a bit of this site will know that I am Ultra Sensory. When I interact with people, I see their location, and it’s almost never seated on their throne. It’s usually above their heads, slightly forward and either to the left or the right, or bouncing between the two. One side seems to draw from the past and the other side from their projection of the future.
Their consciousnesses is entrained to certain levels of awareness, Past and Future. Crowded by all the baggage that these entail. Strategizing; Projecting; Defending the Self Image; Acting through the filters of habituated thought; Coping mechanism; Childhood survival tactics.
When you are seated on your throne, centered, rooted in your All That I Am awareness, you show up to each situation naked. Just as you are.
Without baggage, without projections and without coping mechanisms. You come as your present moment self, not dragging along your inner child, your victim self, your spiritual identity self.
There is a weightless, open, free quality to showing up this way. It’s very practical. It doesn’t bring bliss or deep oneness and connection with other people. It’s not about opening your heart, or any such. There is a simple, grounded sense of security, and…this is not poetic at all…okayness. I’m okay. No matter what is going on.
This doesn’t make me impervious to pain. It’s not like those really dumb spiritual parables where a string of horrible things happens to some enlightened master and he is totally indifferent to it. That’s ludicrous.
What it means is that, whatever the situation, I come entirely as myself, rooted in all my fullness and all my strength. I meet life whole, not fragmented. That wholeness of any one of us is so much more powerful and resilient than you could ever imagine if you only live from the projection, defense mechanisms and baggage of the past or future, of your self identity.
Find your throne. Bring your awareness to the very center of your skull, the middle of your brain, so to speak. Look out through your eyes from the very center of your head. When you do this you’ll immediately feel your breath change, because you’ve just brought your awareness back in alignment with your central channel, the one that runs all the way down your body into the ground. You’ll feel that groundedness and feel how the energy flow is more balanced and smooth.
You’ll notice that discursive thinking, and any sense of grasping, craving, needing, is not present. Notice the okayness. Feeling calm and secure and at home. Notice the openness as you look out through the center of your head, not needing things to be one way or another, even as you may prefer them to be one way or another. The preference does not come with any rejection of what is.
From this seat, you’ll find you have:
The situation is not imposing itself on you. Things move more slowly and you have space to actually see what is going on. Whatever is going on is outside your personal space, so you have your own secure environment from which to observe and choose. You will find that you have access to much more useful information, many levels of awareness. Things that seemed complex, hidden or confusing start to become transparent, simple and understandable.
You are not reactive. You are in command of yourself, able to self-regulate. This brings a feeling of security and stability, regardless of what is happening outside your space. You are free to choose how you feel, what you accept or deflect, and what action to take.
You will likely find that no action is called for most of the time, because most of what is going on “out there” really has nothing to do with you. It’s not yours. You’ll conserve a great deal of energy by not engaging with triggers and external circumstances that really have nothing to do with you. You remain effortlessly quiet, non reactive, with a solid sense of what is yours and what is not. You are free to choose. You are not in a state of dependency.
It’s interesting to note that in this space, you can clearly see and feel what is electric and what is magnetic. There is no friction from inner conflict. Guilt and blame do not occur. The concept of healing wounds does not arise. There is no concept of personal defect or fragmentation.
Your equipment may have gotten damaged in some accident, some collision, but that’s not to say that you are broken and need to be fixed. If you were in an auto accident, you would assess the damage and get it fixed, but you wouldn’t then carry around some idea that you, yourself, are damaged and need repair. It seems semantic, but it’s not. It’s about weight. One is weightless and the other is very heavy indeed.
Now, see how long you can stay seated. What draws you out from your throne into the ping pong table of past and future, of projection and survival strategy, of habituated thought and identity involvement?
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