Category: Basic Human

Get to know your way around the Human Mental Apparatus. Your mind isn’t the enemy. It’s just a tool you haven’t learned to use.

Spirituality and surviving child abuse

Does being abused as a child damage your soul? I was adopted as a baby and raised by two very abusive parents. They were abusive in every way, except I was not sexually abused, nor was I neglected. I actually lived a life of material privilege. On the surface, my parents seemed wonderful. In private, …

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Forgive yourself…in advance

Want to change your life, work on a project, create something? You’re going to need more than motivation to get you past resistance.  Moving from insight to consistent action isn’t easy. A lot of the private consultation I do is helping people understand their default programming, and then working with them to devise a strategy …

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Learn life skills your parents didn’t or couldn’t teach you

Ready to deprogram destructive patterns you learned growing up? Great, but that’s only half of it. Your parents couldn’t model for you what they didn’t know themselves. They couldn’t give you what they didn’t have. This isn’t an exercise in forgiveness or compassion, it’s simply recognizing a fact in a space that is fraught with …

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Deprogramming childhood survival programs

Dealing with “duality” persona programs. One is created in early childhood and the second is created when you are older, maybe even a young adult, as a counterweight. I see a lot of people with a primary Dual Program. A Dual Program creates the appearance of two, nearly opposite, prominent personalities. The primary program is …

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How did we get so stuck?

Keeping the growth mindset throughout your life. The societal demand to answer the question “who are you” leads to self-image fixation. One of the things that opened up profound and lasting insights for me was watching my daughter grow into adulthood. Grow means change. That seems obvious and simple, and your intellectual mind might just …

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Mental Chatter is the Mind’s Default Mode

There are parts of your brain that register and process various types of experience, and another that narrates it. In default mode, they activate almost at the same time. You can train your brain not to do this, allowing you to process experiences without the intrusion of the inner monologue. The brain’s default mode is …

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Negative Self Talk: The Inner Dialogue

Is your inner talk show host a bully, critic, heckler, naysayer, worrier, doom monger, hysteric? What’s playing in that pretty head of yours? One of the inconvenient effects of enlightenment was the ability to perceive the inner dialogues of people around me. This made the world suddenly a much more violent, cruel and aggressive place. …

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The Power of No

Set healthy boundaries, especially with family and friends. The holidays are a wonderful time to embrace the potency of saying no. As I write this we’re putting a wrap on November and heading into the frenzy of winter holidays, American Style. Just insert yourself into your favorite Hieronymus Bosch painting, dole out a few Santa …

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How to manage being overwhelmed by thought loops

Do you think too much? Do you find you are thinking nonstop, or that the inner voice is constantly talking?  What to do when you go from one thought loop to another? How to deal with the sheer number of these programs? One of the Peerless Series participants reported noticing just how much of her …

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Learn to navigate your mind intentionally

How to interrupt thought loops and take control over your own mind. Still want to stay in Default Mode or are you ready for an upgrade? You can run on default or you can actually learn how your mind works and how to work your mind. You need a map, you need some tools and it's great if you can also get some encouragement.

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