Get Out of Default Mode

Are you still operating from your mind’s default mode?

Get to know your way around the Human Mental Apparatus. You’re not who you think you are.

Where do your thoughts come from? Are they even yours? Do you allow an inner Narrator to stand as a filter between you and every perception, every feeling, every experience? Are you able to self-regulate your thoughts and moods? Are you able to choose your perspective?

We’re thrust into this human vehicle at birth without any kind of manual on how to operate it. It’s never too late to learn.

Your mind isn’t the enemy. It’s just a tool you haven’t learned to use.

Basic Human Series: Reprogram Your Mind

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Reader Q&A: I Need To Break My Internet Addiction

Whether it’s news or cat videos, you may find you just can’t stop. Are you addicted to the internet?  Let’s step into our reader’s experience…

Reader Q&A: I’m Having Trouble Turning My Passions into a Business

“I’m really interested in doing things. On the other hand, when it comes to translate an activity in a business idea. I’m stuck.”

The Covid Pandemic is an Opportunity for Massive Personal and Spiritual Growth

I’m in lockdown. Coronavirus has completely unwoven the fabric of my life. So why am I so damn excited? Grinning from ear to ear. Of…

The Truth About Parenting, Childhood Wounds & Growing Up

Whether you’re a parent or not, this is important for everyone. A lot of the issues that come up in parenting are really not even…

How can I cope with the pain of life

How To Cope With The Pain of Life

The world is going to break your heart. To pieces. Or maybe it will feel more like having your heart slowly wrung out, like a…

does childhood trauma damage your soul

Spirituality, Meditation, Psychology and the Effects of Child Abuse

Does being abused as a child damage your soul? Is it possible that the current received wisdom of psychology is incorrect? I don’t think of…

motivation and forgiveness

Forgive yourself…in advance

Moving from insight to consistent action isn’t easy. Want to change your life, work on a project, create something? You’re going to need more than…

It's not too late to learn life skills your parents didn't teach you

Learn life skills your parents didn’t or couldn’t teach you

Ready to deprogram destructive patterns you learned growing up? Great, but that’s only half of it. It’s your choice, and also your responsibility. That’s a…

Mastering the mind

Deprogramming Childhood Survival Programs

Dealing with “duality” persona programs. One is created in early childhood and the second is created when you are older, maybe even a young adult,…

cultivating growth mindset

How did we get so stuck?

Keeping the growth mindset throughout your life. The societal demand to answer the question “who are you” leads to self-image fixation. If you switch from…

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Mental Chatter is the Mind’s Default Mode

There are parts of your brain that register and process various types of experience, and another that narrates it. In default mode, they activate almost…

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Negative Self Talk: The Inner Dialogue

Is your inner talk show host a bully, critic, heckler, naysayer, worrier, doom monger, hysteric? What’s playing in that pretty head of yours? One of…

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The Power of No

It’s the perfect time of year to practice saying no. Not an apologetic no, the one where you have to qualify and explain and justify…

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How to manage being overwhelmed by thought loops

What to do when you go from one thought loop to another? How to deal with the sheer number of these programs? Getting an accurate…

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Learn to navigate your mind intentionally

How to interrupt thought loops and take control over your own mind. Still want to stay in Default Mode or are you ready for an…

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Developing Agency: becoming someone you can trust

You need to develop personal accountability if you are ever going to trust yourself. One of the ways we give up authorship and sovereignty is…

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Observation: your greatest ally

Should. The word seems innocuous enough, but when you find yourself using it in the context of your spiritual work, it’s a cue to stop…

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Everything Must Go!

Yes, I hear you. You’ve got stuff you need to think about. Work issues, practical issues, it’s not all just emotional stuff rattling around in…

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Feeling Guilty About Things Other People Do

So, there are several different components to this bit of programming that you’ll want to investigate further and become aware of. This is a pattern…

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Bombardment Tactics

What happens when the Programs fight back? Imagine you are playing tennis with the Programs. You’ve got a nice volley going—they hit the ball to…

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Continuing in the Face of Discouragement

I gather, guard and transmit my power, my essence, my signature. It’s really quite effortless and natural at this point, but can you even imagine…

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Under The Hood: Perfection

Do you have the Perfectionism Program constantly running in the background of your Operating System? Do you keep adjusting your behavior to satisfy its demands?…

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Relaxing into the Paradox

All of your so called waking hours, the mental apparatus is arranging and rearranging the furniture, so to speak, to create your unique experience of…

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Inner Dialogue vs Outer Diaologue

Normal is not the same as sane. What makes you different from the crazy homeless lady, dressed in rags, talking nonsense day after day? She’s…

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Lighten Up: Emotions

One thing that happened when I awoke is that my heart emptied out. That sounds terrible, doesn’t it? As if my heart became hollow. That…

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Inquisitive vs Acquisitive: Inquiring Minds Want to Know

The mind is not your enemy, unless its actions and mechanisms remain unexamined. Becoming intimately familiar with the levels, processes and different modes of functioning…

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How to Avoid Negative Thoughts and Emotions

“After doing all this spiritual work, why am I still not able to stay positive? Sometimes I feel love, forgiveness, compassion toward people (and toward…

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Dreaming You Are Asleep

Finally, morning came. And why not? Who needs the night to stretch on and one when there isn’t a moment of sleep in it? My…

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Lessons From Day Trading: Dealing With Thought Loops

What can day trading teach you about mastering your mind? People assume my ability to master thoughts and emotions is a byproduct of spiritual enlightenment.

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Reclaim Your Mind and Emotions From Thought Loops

Compulsive thought loops are so pervasive that we believe they are a normal part of being human. While they are common, they are definitely not…

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Thought Loops: Self Regulation Starts With Your Thoughts

Self regulation is not the same as self control, will power or discipline. Thought loops prevent you from exercising your own agency in life, and…

Boredom and distraction on the spiritual path

Most people have no idea how their minds actually work. If you aren’t using your mind intentionally, something else will use it for you. When…

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Deprogramming is Possible

Are you ready to update your mental default programming? I think what’s hard is not knowing where to apply ourselves…spending our energy in places where…

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What’s Your Ratio? Spiritual Consumption vs Practice

Are you serious about spiritual evolution, personal growth, deprogramming the mind, mastering your thoughts, emotions and focus? This bad habit may be holding you back.

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Working With Your Flaws Like a Pro

Tips on how to deal with your faults, failings and negative behaviors. How to handle the things you really don’t like about yourself. Developing relentless…

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Drama Addict

Why do I keep getting drawn into other people’s drama and conflict when I’m working on inner peace and tranquility? Are you a drama addict?…

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Compassion: What is it?

We’re continuing on the theme of greeting yourself with open, friendly curiosity. This time, we approach it from the perspective of compassion. Compassion means something…

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What’s You and Not You

Today let’s investigate what’s you, and what’s not you. What’s yours and what’s not yours. These are topics we work on at length in the…

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Center of Awareness

Are you on or off your throne? Your consciousness has a location and it matters where it is. Where are you? In any given moment,…

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Private Consults

Private Consultation There are times when getting insight, strategy and support from someone you trust makes all the difference between going around in circles or…

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Peerless Series

Fundamentals Are you at the mercy of your thoughts, emotions and programming? The Peerless Series is a beginners course that covers the basics of cultivating…

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