Why does this happen? Why do people behave so badly? 

I can’t say for sure, but my working theory is that they unconsciously sense your lack of personhood. Their good behavior only applies to people, and unconsciously they have put you into a separate category. If you are not a person, all bets are off.

In my experience, it has gotten to the point where people actually talk to me in ways they would never speak to a real human being. If I recorded the things they said to me and replayed it for them, they would be shocked and embarrassed, because they don’t think of themselves that way, this kind of behavior is not part of their self image. They speak to me as if no one was listening, as though I was some kind of AI program.

“I’m a terrible friend, I only call you when I need something. I’m just using you for therapy.”
“Could you read my aura and tell me what you see?”
“I’d pay you back, but I know you don’t care.”
“I got an invitation at the last minute from a friend, so I need to cancel our plans for Christmas tomorrow. I know you won’t mind.”
“You should come live at my house. I’ll let you work for me for room and board.”
“Your husband died? Well, you’re lucky because you’re not affected by such things anymore. Can I host my bachelor party at your house?
“I told her all about you, and now she’s dying to meet you.”
“Thanks for offering to drive me all the way out here. I feel like I’m always taking, but I know it doesn’t matter to you.”

These are things that people who claimed they loved me have said to me. Some of these people are the same ones who previously started worshiping me, so I’ve seen people bounce from one end to the other. These are mundane examples, not nearly on the same level as being poisoned, surely. But it’s a spectrum. When people become totally unconscious of the fact that they have moved you into the inanimate category, anything is ultimately possible. I’ve also found that once you have been moved into the inanimate category, their bad behavior escalates over time if you don’t respond to it.

Find a cave, stay there

One option is to leave the world of people behind, live a reclusive or semi-reclusive life. Limit your interactions with people to what is necessary and never reveal yourself in any way, not even online. I’m sure there are plenty of people who do end up taking this path, but of course, we are not likely to hear from these folks.

Give them what they need

Another option, for those of us disinclined to take our leave, is to approximate personhood just enough to keep from getting shifted into the inanimate category. This sounds easy, but you know it is not. It means you have to switch out of your effortless flow into a kind of friction mode. You need to throw a little friction and drag into your interactions with people. Just enough for them to continue to see you as a person and not as a sophisticated personal AI friend/therapist/ATM/assistant. In other words, a blow up doll.

If you actually “come out” about your condition, things can get very strange indeed. I’m not sure why, but enlightened people are often seen as belonging to humanity, as if we came here to serve and are no longer due consideration or privacy. People feel perfectly comfortable taking the most amazing liberties.

On the other hand, it is very interesting to observe this in action, how people react to a lack of personhood in someone who looks just like a person. Some of these people will even have known you when you were a person, and now they may treat you very differently, though they probably have no idea why. It’s interesting to note that people want others who will be there for them unconditionally, yet it is the very unconditionality of an enlightened person that causes them to stop seeing them as a human being, causes them to not really be able to value what is given. They value what is given conditionally. They understand and value the quid pro quo, the accounting that underpins most human interactions, even with those who are most loved.

Learn to balance your indifference with wisdom. It’s an ongoing dance, and one that you may feel the need to withdraw from on occasion.