Intelligent Spirituality + Human Optimization

Peerless Series

Are you at the mercy of your thoughts, emotions and programming?


The Peerless Series covers getting centered, grounded and cultivating personal agency. Take a 15 week journey with me…I’ll give you practical guidance and effective techniques to master your mind & emotions, one lesson at a time.

This is the fundamental beginners series that underpins all intermediate and advanced series.


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Mastery Series

I’ll give you the tools, perspectives and techniques to stop being a passenger and get in the driver’s seat.


Weekly audio lessons cover a range of topics, from mood management, attitude adjustment, getting the upper hand with thought loops, meditations to remove deep programming, busting out of cherished ruts and more.

If you haven’t taken the Peerless Series, I recommend you do because you’ll have a solid foundation for this course, but it’s not required.


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Instagram post 2127186896597461108_7135779923 You're spinning in circles. The mind wants to fret about something. It wants to rehash, replay -- either a scene or a feeling track. There's nothing wrong with that, except when it's not something you control, initiate and end. This whirring just happens. Some people leave this thing running, in the background, all the time. ⠀
Why? Because you don't know better, mostly. You're used to it, and accept that's just the way it is...unless you become enlightened or achieve some kind of remarkable yogi status. ⠀
But it's not like that at all. Your mind is a tool. Use it when you need to, then put it down. That's not Yogi Stuff. It's just basic human stuff. ⠀
This background spinning leads to anxiety, friction. If your mind wants to fret, it's okay, let it. But put some boundaries on that. Like...ten minutes, starting now. Go on, fret. Worry. Replay. When ten minutes is up, stop. ⠀
Feel better? I mean, from the 10 minutes of whatever that was...worrying. Replaying a feeling track. Rehashing something that happened this morning, when so and so said such and such. ⠀
Did anything change? Did you resolve something in this ten minutes? Did you find a solution? ⠀
Next time your mind wants to fret, instead of giving it ten minutes, try something different. Make a mental image of what it would feel like if whatever this thing is that your minds wants to fret about was resolved, or what it would feel like if it never happened, or what it would feel like if it was about an alien who lives on another planet and you were looking into their life from a remote viewing portal. Do this for ten minutes. Just hold this in your mind and feel that feeling. After ten minutes, stop. ⠀
What was that like? Does it feel different? What does it feel like to feel the mind tugging you toward its default activity? What does it feel like to feel that tug and then choose what to do?
Instagram post 2103137030108064410_7135779923 How useful is my advice? ⠀
In my Peerless and Mastery courses, I give a lot of practical ways to quiet the mind. Is this useful advice? Yesterday I did a private consultation in which I reframed my client's perspective: Is this mental chatter even a "problem" that you need to do something about? Do you even NEED to quiet the mind? ⠀
It seems very different, these two perspectives. One is that you need to master the mind, learn techniques to turn down or even shut off the chatter in order to claim enough space for that elusive *something else* to emerge. What is it? Wisdom? Presence? Your Essential Nature? The other perspective is that holding onto this idea that mental chatter is a problem that needs to be remedied so you can claim some kind of pristine awareness, perfect awakening, is in fact just part of the mechanics of seeking...part of the same mind mechanics that generate the chatter in the first place. ⠀
Both perspectives are true, depending on what level you are operating from. This is important to understand. You seek, you seek outside yourself, and inevitably you seek through the experience and wisdom and advice of others. But you can only digest and use the advice that is appropriate to your level. That's why you'll come across teachings that you feel in your gut are *true*, and yet if you try to apply them you get really weird or no results. They lead to more confusion. Then more seeking. But you're pointed in the wrong direction! You need the advice and teaching that is not only true, but true for you...where you are.⠀
And that means also that when you are no longer where you are...when you've moved past that into truly new territory, a fundamentally new level...your old methods, the old teachings, the previous advice...may no longer be appropriate for you anymore. This is so hard, because they were true and they did work. Those practices are like old friends. You are faithful to them. But they are not old friends. They are steps on a ladder that you leave behind without looking back as you move ahead. The only precious teachings are the ones you need, the ones that are appropriate for you right now.
Instagram post 2091627249157287834_7135779923 My birthday is like my own personal New Year. I love spending my birthday by myself, out in nature, suspended in this liminal space between what was and what is to come. ⠀
This morning I went out before dawn to the beach and spent the twilight with a handsome flock of shorebirds and a school of what looked like baby sand sharks, playing in the tide right up to the sandy shore. ⠀
It's a relief to be here, no one asking me to be anybody. No one telling me who I am based on their personal storyline. Though, I suppose that is not entirely true. I met a bird this morning who looked me over and said, "You look a lot like that woman who fed me."
Instagram post 2086679336581021573_7135779923 Into the unknown. ⠀
How many of you can relate these days? ⠀
I've been busy the past few months. Kind of amazing how much effort it's taken, just to throw myself into the unknown. Finally, I put my entire home into storage and hit the road, before dawn on a Sunday, and drove away. Hundreds of miles, to a friend's house -- the first chapter in my life without a home. I guess that makes me nomadic. Nomadic sounds more elegant than homeless! Over the coming months we'll see just how "elegant" it ends up being. ⠀
My goal is to get enough money together to leave the country for a year. Work remotely from SE Asia, where I will have more time to devote to the work I love.⠀
For now...into the wall of fog. Into the unknown.

Being Human: Are you Pro or Amateur?

Are you still operating from your mind’s default mode? Your mind isn’t the enemy. It’s just a tool you haven’t learned to use. Being human isn’t a hobby, it’s a vocation.

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Spirituality, Meditation, Psychology and the Effects of Child Abuse

Does being abused as a child damage your soul? I was adopted as a baby and raised by two very abusive parents. They were abusive in every way, except I was not sexually abused, nor was I neglected. I actually lived a life of material privilege. On the surface, my… READ >>

Forgive yourself…in advance

Want to change your life, work on a project, create something? You’re going to need more than motivation to get you past resistance.  Moving from insight to consistent action isn’t easy. A lot of the private consultation I do is helping people understand their default programming, and then working with… READ >>

Learn life skills your parents didn’t or couldn’t teach you

Ready to deprogram destructive patterns you learned growing up? Great, but that’s only half of it. Your parents couldn’t model for you what they didn’t know themselves. They couldn’t give you what they didn’t have. This isn’t an exercise in forgiveness or compassion, it’s simply recognizing a fact in a… READ >>

Deprogramming childhood survival programs

Dealing with “duality” persona programs. One is created in early childhood and the second is created when you are older, maybe even a young adult, as a counterweight. I see a lot of people with a primary Dual Program. A Dual Program creates the appearance of two, nearly opposite, prominent… READ >>

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Sudden spiritual enlightenment — are you kidding?

How to cope with sudden spiritual awakening. Because it’s not all rainbows and samadhi pie.

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Can Enlightened People Act Immorally?

Is it possible for an enlightened person to do bad things?  There’s a scandal unfolding around a spiritual teacher. People who once revered him are… READ >>

Losing Your Trajectory

A sudden and profound spiritual awakening can knock you clean out of the life you knew. Many people who contact me after an abrupt spiritual… READ >>

The Path of Integration: Why Are People Reacting Strangely to Me

After spiritual awakening, you may notice that people treat you differently. And not just people close to you, but people you’ve only just met or… READ >>

It’s Just a Phase

How not to end up in a spiritual niche or dead end after spiritual awakening. Whatever your perspective of the moment, it’s just a phase,… READ >>

Still Asleep?

Spiritual Seekers Series: Deep Dream Diving with Beautiful Sleepwalkers. 

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Surrender vs Resignation

Deprogramming is not about improving one’s life. It’s about being oneself, within one’s life. It’s being the author of one’s life, within the parameters of… READ >>

The Difference Between Enlightenment and Having Spiritual Experiences

So far I’ve spoken pretty much exclusively about having, surviving and integrating radical spiritual experiences and not so much about enlightenment. Let’s talk a little… READ >>

Getting to the root of a spiritual crisis

Spirituality can fuq you up. Spiritual pursuit, meditation and practices can illuminate a few corridors, while leaving you blind to everything else. Sometimes spirituality is… READ >>

The Dream Within the Dream

Is there any point to telling dreamers that they are dreaming? I get the call around 2am and rush to put some clothes on, trying… READ >>

Ultra Sensory Chronicles

Psycho or Psychic? Is there any way to have a sane, sensible convo about being Ultra Sensory? Some of us are born this way and sometimes spiritual awakening kicks everything into high gear. Always interesting, but not always a good time.

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